Happy Holidays at The Herron Nest

We at The Herron Nest are feeling pretty blessed this holiday season. We have had a very merry Christmas with so many family gatherings, toys littered all over the floor and quality family-time with each other. Here are a few pics from the last week that sums up the pure joy from all of us.

Baking and decorating Christmas cookies, someone went crazy with the sprinkles

Baking and decorating Christmas cookies, someone went crazy with the sprinkles

Abbey checking out her bag that Santa left for her on Christmas Eve

Abbey checking out her bag that Santa left for her on Christmas Eve

Annual family photo on Christmas Eve

Annual family photo on Christmas Eve

Christmas morning snuggy-licious photo snap

Christmas morning snuggy-licious photo snap

Happy and very spoiled little elves

Happy and very spoiled little elves

 

We all had to show off our hot blue bods!

We all had to show off our hot blue bods!

 

Abbey and her Grandma Herron on Christmas night

Abbey and her Grandma Herron on Christmas night

 

Snuggling with Daddy as she checks out Santa at Kiesewetter Christmas

Snuggling with Daddy as she checks out Santa at Kiesewetter Christmas

 

Abbey's turn to sit on Santa's lap

Abbey’s turn to sit on Santa’s lap

 

Snuggling with her littlest cousin, Isabella.

Snuggling with her littlest cousin, Isabella

 

Meeting Jack in 3D

Meeting Jack in 3D

As I settle in on a Sunday night (football in the background of course), I’m reflecting on the last week and what a whirlwind it has been. No better way to wrap up Christmas than to see our baby boy in 3D – he is so handsome! I’m hoping for continued health for both Jack and myself in my last trimester. After seeing him and comparing his features to Abbey, I’m more excited to meet our little man but I’m cherishing these moments with Abbey as a family of three. What a great way to begin to wrap up 2013, such a great year!

 

 

Why Women are Pregnant for 9 Months.

Did the house keeper get him this way?

I am a man.  I have no business talking about pregnancy, right?  Wrong.  I might not have carried our child around for 9 months, but I have had to pick up the slack in other areas due to our Uterus Alien zapping all of my wife’s strength and sometimes mental capacity!  So I feel I have earned the right to take a stab at why women are pregnant for 9 months.

Quite simply, because that is how long it takes to really be ready for the little bundle of joy that is going to come screaming out of Jesy’s vagina.  Think about it ladies, were any of you ready to have the baby the instant you found out that you were pregnant?  Hell no!  There were gifts to register for, a nursery to set up, all the gifts you registered for need to be put together, the house has to be cleaned 500 times, the entire house needs re-organized, the house needs to be baby-proofed, you need to pick out a pediatrician, you need to take all the baby safety classes and birthing classes and you need to take a tour of the hospital so you know where you are going when you get there.  Not to mention all the showers that you will have and all the ultrasounds and doctor visits that you go to.  Are you sure nine months is really enough time?  Hell, I’m exhausted just thinking about it all!

And yet here I sit, days away from becoming a father and all that seems like a blur to me.  It was all gone in a matter of moments and now THE day is rapidly approaching.  Today just happens to find me in a reflective mood.  So here is my best guess at explaining the genius of God and trying to determine why 9 months?

1st Trimester (Months 1-3)

  • Month 1.  You just had that oh shit moment, you peed on a stick and it gave you that news that several mornings of throwing up had been trying to tell you.  Your prego!  Now you get to schedule that first doctor visit to confirm your findings with a higher power than your urinary discharge.  The rest of this month you will be telling your close friends and family.  This is a good opportunity to have fun with your family if you so choose.   For instance, you can go to them and say that you have some good news and some bad news.  The good news is that after years of getting badgered about when we are going to have kids and that we are finally going to have one!  The bad news is that because of all that stress we are getting a divorce…..JUST KIDDING!  I would make sure that you have a very tolerant family before trying that joke.
  • Month 2.  You have no energy to do anything.  The new life forming inside you is acting like more of a symbiote and is stealing all your energy.  As an added bonus, it seems like God is punishing you because you can’t seem to stop running to the bathroom to throw up anytime there is a smell or taste you don’t like, which is about every 10 minutes.  You’re mainly still trying to cope with the fact that this is real!  Most of your time is spent hiding the fact that you are pregnant, eating and sleeping, ironic that the first couple months of the baby’s life will be spent in a similar fashion.
  • Month 3.  Time to start thinking about the nursery.  What will be the theme?  What will be the colors?  What kind of furniture and what kind of stain will it have?  How will the light from the second window effect the baby as you change them?   All those questions and more!  Fathers get ready, this is the start of having to put together anything that comes in that front door.  Also, if you haven’t already you can get that first ultrasound out-of-the-way.  The first one is pretty special, it’s the first time you get to see that little lima bean growing inside your wife’s stomach.

Trimester (Months 4-6)

  • Month 4.  Congrats, your rate of successfully having this baby just dramatically jumped.  You now have a 67% chance that the baby will make it all the way to term now.  It’s like in Monopoly when you get the card that allows you to go straight to GO.  This is also the time you start calling up family and friends and tell them why you haven’t been drinking wine or doing belly flops into the pool.   Your wife is supposed to turn back into a human after spending 3 months as a zombie, but I didn’t see too big of a jump until the third trimester.

We have two standers here! Remember boys, don't cross those streams!

  • Month 5.  Time to get that important ultrasound to see if you are having a stander or a squatter, a boy or a girl!  And you are at the halfway point now too, man where had the time gone?  Oh that’s right you have slept it away!  Well no more, time to get ready for a wife that will start to get stressed out with everything that still needs to be done.  And if your wife didn’t already have the shopping gene, she will now!  Time to go register!  Men, this will be hell for you, hours upon hours will be spent in a baby mega store like BuyBuyBaby or Babies R Us looking at the same crap over and over trying to decide which you want more, which is safer, which will go with the room better, which one you could assassinate yourself with.  It’s even worse if your wife brings along her best friend, you really start to feel irrelevant.  At any point I think I could have left, walked to a bar, had a couple of drinks and came back and they would have never missed me.  I probably should have.  My advise is to go for an hour at a time.  You will be tempted to register for everything all at once, don’t. You will kill each other and it is so overwhelming.  Take it an hour at a time, and have a list made of things you definitely want before hand.  And my last bit of advise is, do some research on safety before you go and get a general idea of what you want before you go in.  You’re welcome from the hours of fighting, crying and merchandise throwing I just saved you.  Seriously, it can be like a mad house in there, you have been warned.
  • Month 6.  Time to get serious, time to find a pediatrician.  Some things to consider; does the Doctor have young kids of their own?  Do they have children with special needs?  How long have they been a doctor and where have they been a doctor for their career?  Does the doctor’s office have a way to keep healthy kids and sick kids separate?  Do they have special times to bring in newborns?  Will the doctor be available around your work schedule?  Happy hunting!  Also, this is a good time to start taking those baby classes at the hospital.  I personally feel a TON better knowing that if something happens to my child I am way more prepared to do something.  Some of the stuff they go over is common sense and some of it you might already have memorized if you have been going to the OB check ups with your wife like I had been doing.  There is a chart about how to breast feed that I have to look at every time we go to the doctors.  Jesy never sees it because it is behind her, but I get to see it every time they are taking her blood pressure, so I had all the techniques on how to breast feed memorized before we even took the class.  That won’t come in that handy since my little man boobs don’t have any milk.  But hopefully I can help ensure that Jesy gets a good latch. Time to start taking baby classes at the hospital.  And lastly, get ready to have your house overrun with baby crap.  It’s about this time that your wife is going to start attending showers and making you clean out the car when she gets home.  Month 5 is the last time your house will be yours.  From now on that is the baby’s house, get used to it.

3rd Trimester (Months 7-9)

  • Month 7. It’s getting close to crunch time now.  You are in the final phase and for the first two months of the third trimester your wife will definitely make a return to somewhat normalcy.  Enjoy it while you can, because when that last month hits, she is going to get tired quicker and doing things like taking off her socks has become an ordeal.  The first thing you are going to want to do is clean the house.  Start with organizing all the shower loot you got.  Get it put away and ready for when the baby comes, because God knows you won’t have time when the baby is actually here!  By this time your wife has normally turned into a cleaning machine.  She only stops to empty the vacuum and then starts all over again.  If you have pets (which we do) you will clean almost daily from here on out.  Also, you are going to be making one last trip to the baby store.  It’s time to pick up anything you NEED that was somehow missed on your registry.  My only advice is to make sure you have all your coupons BEFORE you go and fill up your cart, it just makes things easier.  This is also a good month to get a 3D ultrasound.  The baby is pretty developed by this point and it is right before they get all smooshed inside your wife’s belly.  It makes for the best 3D picture.  I was a bit skeptical, especially considering the price, but after I was in the room and got to see my little girl all life-like, it was worth it.  I would have paid double.  It was so cool!  We went to Becoming Mom Spa in Deerfield and they were awesome!

Unless you want your 3D ultrasound to look something like this, don't wait too long!

  • Month 8.  Your wife is ready to have the baby, NOW.  But there is still some incubating left to do.  The energy level is going to go way down and not just for your wife, but for dads too.  Dads have been busy putting crap together, helping find room for all the baby stuff, doing the work around the house that your wife can’t anymore.  You both are going to be going to bed earlier, taking more naps and waking up tired.  I would say get used to it because I think that is how the next 20 years of your life might be.  At this point the nursery should be done, all registry gifts should be put away and organized and a pediatrician should have been picked out.  If not then get to it future parents, because time is running out!   This is a good time for all fathers-to-be to go around the house on your hands and knees and figure out what a kid could get into and then safety-ize it!  I have yet to do this, so I am a little behind, but it needs to get done.  Plug up outlets, put on corner protectors, all that fun stuff.  If you have pets this task will be challenging, they will want to play with you the entire time.
  • Month 9.  The finish line is in site now and it can’t come soon enough.  Your wife is now saying prayers to help motivate the baby to get the hell out!  It’s like a squatter that won’t leave!  The only thing you really have to get done this month is your last ultrasound to get some measurements on your baby.  This is a good and bad thing.  You have not seen your baby since week 21ish or maybe week 28ish if you got a 3D ultrasound, so you are really anxious to see how big they are.  But knowing how big they are is a double-edged sword.  We found out that we might be having a 10 pound baby!  Say what?  Now we are stressed out about Jesy trying to squeeze that basketball of a child out of her vagina.  Wonderful.  On top of that we get to stress about inducing early and a possible c-section.  The biggest problem with a c-section is that Jesy will take longer to recover and if anyone knows Jesy that is a bad thing.  She doesn’t like NOT being on the go, so if we have to go down that path, she is not going to be happy.  But on the bright side this is a month that you can try to take it easy and just try to get ready for when your baby arrives.

And there you have it.  God must have had it right to begin with.  There is no way that any normal set of parents would be ready to have a child in even three months, you need all nine to really be ready.  To have your house ready, to have your mind ready and to have your friends and family ready it will take all nine months and it will just fly by!

Thank you to everyone that helped keep us sane for nine months and helped get us ready.

Special thanks to my mother-in-law and Kat who came over and helped get the house organized, we would not be nearly as ready without your help.

22 weeks along, birth plan anyone?

{22 Weeks}

I can’t help it but I think I start almost every “Belly Update” post with the same line: “wow, I can’t believe how fast this is going!” If I had to guess, I would say that time will really start to slow down after my 30 week mark. Just a guess!

I will admit that I’m more into the curious stage of my pregnancy right now. Curious about what Abbey needs (hence registering with Lauren last week at BuyBuyBaby) and what we need to do to prepare for her. Last week I posted a question on Facebook about creating a birth plan and asked my mom friends to tell me if they 1. did a birth plan and 2. was it worth it or even necessary. The answers were almost unanimously the same,  most everyone who DID put the plans together said that either the plan was shot to hell or it never made it out of the bag. I even got professional responses from labor and delivery nurses and they pretty much agreed to not waste the time unless I have some seriously off the wall demands. There were a few posts that were pro birth plan and some friends even sent me their plans to consider (Thanks for that!).

Here is the next big thing that I need help with deciding….this is big, haha! George and I can NOT find a diaper bag that we really like. We have at least decided that we want a “back-pack” type bag that will be easy to just throw on but we can’t find THE one that we love. If you have any suggestions on one that you have used and like that has the back-pack straps, please let me know. One that we are looking at right now is a Columbia back-pack diaper bag that Jami and Matt and our friends Lauren and Mark have. Only issue is that we can’t find one where we are registered…should we just buy a back pack from Dick’s and call it a day??

Lastly, who do you suggest for a pediatrician? We’d like to stay local, meaning Sharonville, Blue Ash, Montgomery area if possible to make it easy on us. I was told that I need to start meeting and interviewing doctors soon and want to get my homework  done before my next appointment with Caligaris. Again, any suggestions would be helpful either via comments or my email – Thanks!

{Belly Updates}

22 Weeks and 2 days. And I'm getting HUGE (especially at the end of a day!)

{How far along?} 22 Weeks 2 days

{Total weight gain} Recent doctor appointment + 2.5 pounds for a whole month (I was proud of myself) and only a total gain of 5 pounds for the pregnancy so far. (This appointment was on July 11th – I’ve had some serious carb cravings since then and can expect this number to be MUCH higher next time).

{How big is baby?} Abbey should be about 11 inches long and just about 1 pound. At my last ultrasound, almost 20 days ago, she was weighing in at a whomping 13 ounces so I’m assuming she is actually bigger than 1 pound right now.

{Maternity clothes?} YES… actually just purchased a few cute items from the Motherhood Maternity store. I’m really NOT excited about purchasing a new bra and have been stuffing myself into my current non-maternity one for quite a while. I’ll delay this purchase for as long as I can!

{Sleep?} Remember in my last post when I said I was sleeping good, yea, scratch that! I’m having the hardest time now. My lower back is starting to ache, I’m trying to keep on my left side but my flippin hips are going nuts and I’m just getting to the overall uncomfortable stage. I’m trying out little things here and there to aide with the sleeping so we’ll see what works or doesn’t work.

{Best moment this week?} The whole family was in Barberton, OH this past weekend for the 2011 Challenger State Tournament and I can’t tell you how many times little kids would come up to me to ask if they could pet my belly or to see if there was a baby in my belly. It was pretty darn cute! And just to note, I’m not one that freaks out about people touching my belly. I do prefer it when complete strangers ask but if you are a friend or family member… go ahead, I’m an open petting zoo.

{Movement?} Abbey’s movement varies. She was going nuts this past Friday night kicking and stretching but mostly I still feel flutters. However, I’m feeling something new these days and its hard to explain except I think it is her having the hiccups. There is a little bubble feeling and I can’t think of what else it could be.

{Food cravings?} Pepperoni and single cheese calzone from LaRosa’s pretty please! I’m trying to space it out to only once a week but it is a dangerous craving. And poor George is probably getting sick of eating it all the time. I still love my golden delicious apples with peanut butter, wheat thins and laughing cow cheese and I just recently discovered Quaker Chewy Dipps. Which is basically a chocolate chip granola bar dipped and completely covered in chocolate. Probably not as healthy but sure tastes REAL good.

{Labor signs?} Nope!

{Belly button in or out?} In

{What I miss} sleeping on my back or stomach

{What I’m looking forward to} I scheduled a 3D ultrasound at the Becoming Mom Spa in Deerfield. We are going to be there between 27 and 28 weeks which I was told is a good time to see the baby in 3D (thanks Lauren!) I was talking with Jami who I share my doctor with and she told me that with Dr. Caligaris she went from a 20 week ultrasound to 36 weeks. I just felt like I needed something to break it up and it will be so neat to see Abbey in 3D and compare her features from those pictures to when she is born.

{Milestone} I’m making it through the summer heat!

**Side comment about the shirt I’m wearing in the picture. George found it at Target and it reads, “Hope Grows Love.” We thought it was perfect since we call our last daughter Hope! 

New Goal And a Few Updates

Just read an article about having a baby on 11/11/11 – NEW GOAL! How COOL would it be to have a baby on 11/11/11?

According to the article, those who want to have a baby on 11/11/11 will need to get busy now. This is of course referencing those who are on a “normal” 28 day cycle. Boo, I am not on that “normal” cycle but I’ll still cross my fingers and toes that this could be a possibility for The Herron Nest. Obviously, the disclaimer all over the article is that this is not a guarantee but you could probably talk your doctor into the idea, right? The article then breaks out the idea that if you are prego with twins then most likely you won’t make the full 40 weeks gestation because twins are typically considered full term at 38 weeks. Of course it would be so cool to have a baby (or babies) on 11/11/11 but all the Herron’s care about is a healthy baby (or babies).

{Update on The Herron Nest}

I (Jesy) have recently had my pre-conception massage. What is this you ask? I’ll admit that at first I thought my lovely BFF’s bought me a massage with some hocus-pocus spin on the title to make me feel better. No way – this was a crazy informative massage with an acupuncture focus that helps to get your body ready for conception. It was given to me by Jen at Becoming Mom Spa and she claims to have a pretty high success rate for your next month to conceive. Not only was she sweet and full of information but she gave great advice and suggested certain foods to eat.

What’s next? We’ll see how things look for this month but I have talked to my doctor and we (George, Doctor and Me) decided that if I’m not pregnant this month (still keeping fingers crossed) than I will start on fertility. You are probably thinking “WOAH” at this point and thats how I felt when the idea was first presented to me. I know that Dr. Cali wants to make sure George and I get pregnant pretty quickly and this his way of helping us to get on that track. Side effects don’t seem too bad and if we get pregnant with multiples then so what! We lost our baby 3 months ago (tomorrow) and if we get two in this next pregnancy than GREAT!

We are just so appreciative of all the continued support from friends and family and feel so blessed to have all of you in our lives.