Rear Facing Until 4 Years Old, Really!

This is my fair warning that this post might rub someone the wrong way, it is bound to happen since what I’m going to write about is a bit on the controversial side. But here I go….

new car seat

Happy 2nd Birthday Abbey!

We have decided to keep Abbey in a rear facing car seat until she is 4 years old. WHAT? OMG! The Herron’s are cray-cray! Yes, it is true, we are cray-cray but even more so we are crazy about keeping our little girl safe. We were actually all set and sort of excited about going to purchase Abbey another car seat to replace the one she uses in my car (her infant seat that holds her up to 30 lbs) and fully expected to turn her facing forward as soon as she turns two (11 days). We are very happy with our current car seat which is a Britax Marathon 70-G3 and decided we would go ahead and purchase the same one. While at Buy Buy Baby I was talking to the nice man in the car seats and stroller department about our graduation to forward facing car seat time. He looked at me, looked at Abbey and asked, “how old is she?” I told him she would be two in 11 days and were happy to turn her car seat around basically patting myself on the back for being the parent who kept her rear facing this long. WHAAP! That was my slap across the face because he basically schooled me on when I should actually turn a toddler around to a  forward facing car seat, age FOUR.

Buy Buy Baby was previously recommending that forward facing was okay at age two then they changed their tune to recommend keeping toddlers rear facing as long as possible after age two to now recommending that you do not turn your toddler forward facing until the ripe old age of four. His explanation went something like, the bones in their body don’t oscillate until they turn four years old and basically it was better for them to potentially break bones in their legs in a car accident versus having internal decapitation in an accident. That was it! I was already sold on the same car seat we have now but I was basically yelling for George because we would be keeping Abbey rear facing until 4 years old. Then of course I needed to dive into the Interwebs and find other articles and opinions that backed what the Buy Buy Baby guy was saying. I actually found that the child breaking their legs while rear facing was simply untrue and it is MORE likely to occur if the child is forward facing. – BEST article I could find, hands down. – Pictures are cute in this one! – there is actually a Rear Facing campaign in the UK

I can’t wait to ask Abbey’s pediatrician to weigh in on this as well, George and I value Dr. Somsak’s opinion very much and typically look to her for these types of questions. Dr. Somsak, if you are out there and want to weigh in, please feel free to do so, otherwise we will see you in a few weeks 🙂 For now I did find a few articles that are at least great reference points. There is not much updated on the rule that went into effect in 2011 about staying rear facing until two but I did find a few. Hopefully this is helpful for those of you also looking for answers on what to do, this is not something to take lightly yet it is damn near impossible to get a straight answer. I’ll be the first to admit it, I was looking forward to forward facing car seat time. I drive a Mazda 3 and the passenger seat is literally up as far as it will go so that Abbey’s car seat fits behind it. What the hell am I going to do with two little ones rear facing in my back seat? Ummmm…. that is up for another discussion, I guess I need a new car?

I’ll leave you with this, a wise woman once told me (you know who you are), “You only get one shot when raising your kids” and this is that time when I need to think about keeping Abbey safe versus convenience for George and me.


36 Weeks – Bob errr George the Builder

{36 Weeks}

George tested!

George has been super dad-to-be this whole pregnancy and now that we are nearing the end he is also becoming the go-to for all things that need put together or plain old fixed around the house. Not too many things need fixed around the house but there are PLENTY of Abbey’s items that need put together. As you can see, he gets help from Abbey’s four-legged and fury brothers! From the baby gate at the top of our basement stairs to the co-sleeper that we’ll be using in our room and the crib for Abbey’s room and everything else in between he has been kept busy. Oh and on Monday George sent me a text that said, “tada” and there was this picture of the car seat already installed. There was this sudden rush of emotions like, holy shit this is real! Not like all the other stuff was fake or something but now there is a car seat chilling in the back seat of our car. So when I got home we set up the mirror so that we can see Abbey (both of us checked) when she is in her car seat.


We’ve been using the basement as our staging area and then slowly have been bringing up all her toys, clothes, accessories, and other items to her bedroom. I swear that we are busting at the seams. Every day I realize that I have to re-organize this room or that closet to decide if we really need all the stuff that George and I have accumulated all these years. Goodwill has been getting their fair share of our crap lately including every single old homecoming or prom dress that I ever wore in high school. Feels SO great to get rid of boxes and bags full of old stuff to allow room for our daughter and her billion and 1 baby items. Thank goodness my cousin, Kat, is the anti-pack rat and has been convincing me that I don’t need all my half empty bottles of lotion or soap or body spray. If someone dug around my trash they would actually come out smelling pretty tasty.

Needless to say, we are ready for Abbey’s arrival! Her bedroom is completely furnished and all organized and ready for her vacancy. Changing table now has a changing pad (silly details) and other fun things like her bouncy seat are all put together waiting her arrival. Last thing I did this week was packed my hospital bag. I used my lists from everyone’s suggestions and ran to Target for some of the other things that I needed. My dad popped over last night and asked how long I planned on staying in the hospital because of the amount of stuff I had in my bag….psh…old men!

{Belly Updates}

no more room...she probably wants to come out of there!

{How far along?} 36 Weeks 4 days and only 24 days till my due date!

{Total weight gain} I’m now visiting Dr. Caligaris once a week and Monday was my first “weekly” appointment. I was pretty impressed that I am on target with only gaining 2 pounds (one per week). Hopefully I can keep this up and still be under my 30 pound goal, currently at 24 pounds and technically less than 4 weeks to go! It will be close.

{How big is baby?} Oh man… drum roll please………..Abbey is estimating a whopping 7.5 lbs! WOAH! Still have 3 weeks to go, what the heck is happening in my belly? Of course the tech mentioned that she could be +/- 1 pound so we could be at a manageable 6.5 pounds or there is of course the other side of the coin at 8.5 lbs. Can’t wait to hear wait Dr. Caligaris says on Monday.

{Maternity clothes?} YES, the extra large type. I am now rotating the same 5 or so outfits to wear to work, good thing I work mainly with guys and they won’t notice.

{Sleep?} Yes and no… There are nights when I wake up slightly refreshed because I pretty much slept the whole time then there are nights when I toss and turn. All normal so whatever. I will say that it is a toss up on how tired I am in third trimester versus first.

{Best moment this week?} Another week of lots of things going on and getting lots of things accomplished = a GREAT week overall. Having the hospital bag packed, car seat secure and strapped in the car ready to go and just feeling all around ready. Plus our ultrasound and getting to see Abbey again.

{Movement?} Yes, continual movements from my little girl. One of the best things from going to an ultrasound would be finding out what that poke or nudge has been on my left side or right side of the belly. Turns out she is still head down and the pokes I’m feeling on my left is her knees! And I was right about the bulge on the right side of my stomach which is her butt!

{Food cravings?} PIZZA crepe PIZZA crepe PIZZA crepe

{Labor signs?} I am literally questioning every little ache and pain but nothing that screams LABOR pains as I’m sure they will have me screaming.

{Heart Burn} Back to no or at least not really this week. But in the ultrasound we did learn that she has some hair.

{Belly button in or out?} Still in, I really am surprised by this. I would have thought by now that bad boy would have popped out.

{What I miss} Lying on my belly for sleep!

{What I’m looking forward to} 2 things: one is our (potentially) last pre-baby date night with Isaiah and Heather and the other is my massage next week at BecomingMom Spa. George bought me a pre and post labor massage for our anniversary. I also get a big ole spa robe which I’ll be bringing to the hospital with me.

{Milestone} I walked around Ikea for 2 hours on Wednesday with the US Digital Partners design team. Yes folks, that is an accomplishment.


  1. I’ve heard that you can take your car seat to the fire station to have them check the installation (or do they put it in for you?), is this mandatory?
  2. Another hospital bag question – do you need your social security card or other important documents like that? Obviously I’ll have my license and health insurance card.